Life immediately after a breakup is never easy, even if you know it was the right thing. For a while, you just feel sad, angry, lonely, and a roller coaster of other emotions. Obviously, at this point, you’re in no shape to start a new relationship.
Sure, you may swipe through a dating app or go home with someone at the bar in an attempt to numb the pain or fill that companionship void that just opened up. But truly being ready to date and find love is different. So, how can you tell the difference? Here are a few signs that indicate you’re ready to get back on the horse!
1) You’re not thinking or talking about your ex all the time.
Constantly thinking and talking about your ex and breakup after everything goes down is normal. In fact, it’s a healthy way to vent and process what happened and start healing. But when everything little thing stops reminding you of your ex, you’ve stopped cyber stalking them, and you’re no longer angry when you see or think of them, that’s when you know you’re over the emotional breakup hump.
2) Single life is fulfilling.
Do you find that lately your focus has been on hanging out with friends, doing well at work, pursuing your hobbies and passions, and working toward personal goals? That means you’ve rediscovered your sense of self, i.e., who you are outside of a relationship. When you reach this point, you’re in a good place to begin a healthy relationship with someone new.
3) You can reflect objectively on your past relationship.
Right after your breakup, thinking about what happened and your relationship feels raw, personal, and emotional. As you process and start getting over it though, you’re able to view everything with more objectivity. If you can look at your past relationship and acknowledge both the pros and cons, as well as your role in the breakup, then your mindset has shifted and you’re ready to get back out there.
4) The thought of dating is exciting.
It can be difficult and emotional to even imagine dating anyone other than your ex after a breakup. But after you accept that it’s over and realize you’re better off, you can start to look forward to the prospect of someone new. Being able to identify what you want in a new relationship and get excited about the possibilities is a surefire sign that it’s time to start connecting again.
When you start noticing the signs that you’re ready for the possibility of something new after your breakup, sign up for a membership with My Safe Dating! As an online dating platform for singles over the age of 40, you’re much more likely to find someone with a similar mindset and complementary dating goals here than anywhere else.
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