Online dating apps and websites are a great way to meet new people, especially if you’re jumping back into the game after the end of a marriage or long-term relationship. Virtual profiles and chatting tools allow you to get to know someone at whatever pace you’re comfortable before committing to spending any time together in person. In fact, you might be surprised at how much a dating profile or initial conversation can tell you about a potential match.
But just like when you’re making new connections in person, there are a few red flags to be aware of when looking for and talking to someone online. Be on the lookout for any of the warning signs below that could indicate your online match isn’t the kind of partner you’re searching for!
Online Profile Red Flags
Little to No Bio
If someone is serious about finding a new partner, they’ll put in some effort to tell you about themselves and what they’re looking for. It doesn’t have to be a full autobiography, but they should be willing to give you a little insight into who they are from the get-go.
Bio Filled with Negatives or Requirements
On the other hand, if someone’s bio talks negatively about dating or is just a list of what they do and do not want in a partner, they may not be the ideal relationship candidate either. References to a negative outlook on dating (“I don’t know why I’m even on here”, “Online dating never works anyway”) can indicate someone carrying a lot of baggage. If their bio is just a laundry list of qualities that a match must or cannot have, then there’s a good chance they might be a critical and controlling partner.
Few or Out-of-Date Photos
A dating profile that has no pictures or only includes group photos is a big red flag. When you’re meeting people online, you need to be clear about what you look like. This is important not just so people can gauge if they’re attracted to you, but also so they know you’re a real person and not a fake profile trying to scam or catfish them. You should also be wary of profiles with photos that are clearly outdated or only selfies, as they may be misrepresenting or hiding their true self. You don’t want to spend the time and effort on someone who is dishonest from the start.
Online Chatting Red Flags
Avoiding Face-to-Face Communication
After you’ve gotten to know each other a little more and become comfortable with chatting through a messenger or texting, an online match should be willing to talk to you face-to-face (or at least over the phone). If it has reached a comfortable point for a video chat or in-person meetup and someone is making excuses or constantly avoiding taking it to the next level, this is cause for concern. They may not be being honest about who they are or their situation, or not serious about finding a partner.
Coming on Too Strong
The initial conversation between online dating matches should be easygoing and move at a comfortable pace. If someone is sending you a lot of messages, particularly when you don’t reply right away, or pressuring you to meet up in person, don’t be afraid to set some boundaries. If you continue talking and they don’t respect these boundaries, it’s probably best not to take things any further. Somebody who doesn’t respect your time, space, or comfort level is likely to be controlling in a relationship.
On the other end of the spectrum, somebody who is not putting much effort into the conversation is probably either not serious about a relationship or hiding something. We all live busy lives, but when someone takes days to reply, gives one to two-word answers, or stops responding altogether and then reaches out weeks later, something isn’t right. A little mystery is exciting, but too much is a red flag.
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